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The Center of the Universe

29 Jan

One of the big problems that we as humans have to face is

Other People 

Honestly, I don’t even know what to do with them most of the time.

In my sixteen years as a homo-sapien sapien, I’ve only figured out only one thing about the human race:

The solar system doesn’t revolve around the sun. The universe revolves around yourself.

Every one is the center of their own universe. I have found myself saying that to angry and frustrated friends time and time again this year.

One’s dire problems and earth-shattering events are only dire and earth-shattering to that person.

Nobody cares that your car broke down. Their car is perfectly fine.

Sure, they will help you (maybe,) but it’s not their problem!

IT’S NOT THEIR PROBLEM.

IT’S NOT THEIR PROBLEM.

IT’S NOT THEIR PROBLEM.

It is your problem.

While you think about yourself, they are thinking about themselves.

Sure, parents say their worlds revolve around their kids.

BUT THAT’S THEIR PROBLEM.

News flash: parents care about themselves just as much as anyone else.

They need to take care of their little life and money sucking leashes because A.) They don’t want to be arrested for child neglect and B.) Biology makes them do it.

Let’s talk about why we do each other favors then.

Situation A: An average Joe is asked by a colleague to give a paper to someone as he is leaving his office.

Resolution a: Joe says no and goes home.

Resolution b: Joe says yes.

Let’s say Joe says no. He’s going home. Maybe to his family. Maybe he wants to catch the new episode of Supernatural. He is thinking about himself and that’s perfectly acceptable. He doesn’t want to miss the new episode of Supernatural or family dinner night.

But the colleague of Joe’s could have the same exact things going on, so Joe is an ass for not saying yes.

So Joe is justified to himself, but in the wrong to his colleague.

But what if Joe says yes? Why did he say yes?

Maybe the person he was asked to give the paper to was on his way. Still, he could have said no and spared himself the awkward conversation between two people who are not friends.

What if the person was on the other side of the building? Or really hated Joe? Or was creepy?

Why did Joe say yes?

It’s because Joe wants something.

Maybe Joe wants

  1. people to like him.
  2. to please his god.
  3. to be nice.

By why does he want people to like him? So they will be nice to him and do things for him in return?

I’m going to go with yes.

So he wants to please god, eh? What does god do for you? Give you eternal salvation? A nice, comfortable afterlife? Joe is making sure he will be comfortable after death. It’s like a spiritual retirement fund. He’s not doing the favor for his colleague. He’s doing it for himself so he can be cozy where everything’s white and fluffy.

And why is someone nice?

Either they are secretly a serial killer or they want something. (Or they are somewhere in there.)

People do things for other people because they are indirectly doing it for themselves.

And that’s okay!

Be the center of your universe! Everyone does it! All the cool kids are doing it!

Have some science to back yourself up:

Just remember, not everyone thinks you are the center of it. They think they are.

Don’t get mad when people are too wrapped up in their own problems to help you with yours.

It’s your problem. Deal with it.

It’s their problem. Deal with it.

If you want someone to focus on your problems, see a therapist. That’s their job.

End note: I am not a philosopher, psychologist, or social scientist. This is based on my experience with dealing with other people. Also, I’m in a bad mood so it’s a but pessimistic. But that doesn’t mean I’m wrong.

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